BE THERE FOR YOU :)
BE THERE FOR YOU
have had enough situations in my life where you just have to stop obsessing over something and calm down. Here are my very personal tricks that I use to let go of any situation whether related to health, career, friendships, relationships etc.
1. ACCEPTANCE: It is what it is, you got to accept whatever the situation, the circumstances are. sometimes you just have to bow down to the problem and stop fighting for anything. Give up on the things which have started to consume you.
2. NO EXPECTATIONS: Just because you have put so much time, effort, and energy into something does not mean it will reciprocate the same. It is the harsh reality of this world, nobody is obliged to give you the same kind of efforts or returns. The soon you will give up on the expectations from others, soon your life will be happy and easy. You can’t expect from people who even lie to themselves.
3. PATIENCE IS THE KEY (sometimes): I learned this so early in life, being calm and composed will save you from many disastrous events. But when you know it is the time to react, react unapologetically. BE THE BIGGER PERSON, BUT NOT ALWAYS
4. THE MAGIC WORD: I have recently discovered a magic word for myself i.e "SWITCH" Whenever I sense something taking over my sane self in the middle of a busy day and I cannot afford to get sad about something I just snap my fingers 3 times and say SWITCH. Now this is a subconscious indication to myself that I need to switch my emotions to something else.
5. SIT WITH IT: DO NOT drink it away, smoke it away or party it away, it is just going to pile up and you have to carry that baggage with you. Sit with yourself, cry it away, write it away, feel it, no matter how long it takes for those feelings to go away completely but there is no other way to get out of those emotions. Cry until there are no more tears left in you to shed.
Because you don’t want your loved ones to be the victim of your past unhealed version.
6. IT IS ALWAYS GOING TO BE YOU FOR YOU: No matter how many friends you have or how close you are to your parents. It's always going to be you who has to fight your battles, nobody is going to do that for you, you have to wipe your tears, pick yourself up, and show up to work the other day even when the last night you only did was cry. Look at yourself giving no excuses for anything and always showing up for your friends, family, work, clients, and everyone else. SO PLEASE BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF TOO, THIS WORLD IS TOO HARSH.
Cry into your pillow, under the shower, in your car, in front of god, but NEVER CRY ONTO THE WRONG SHOULDER. 99.99% people do not care about your tears & the .01% people who care (your heart will always know) <3
7. THE MANTRA: If you are religious have a mantra to chant when you have imbalanced emotions, this will help you calm down and divert your thoughts or if you are spiritual have some fixed affirmations. THIS REALLY HELPS.
8. DON'T REPEAT OLD PATTERNS: one time is a mistake but more than that is a choice, you know what is right or wrong for you, and nobody else will decide that for you. if you feel it, it's valid, allow yourself to sulk, and don't demand anybody else's validation about your emotions. Believe me, it does not have to make sense to anybody but YOU. Though the condition is to not engage in that loop again and again, take your lesson and move on.
You don't always have to be the bigger person, you do not have to forcefully take someone else's baggage and put it on your shoulders. Be gentle and soft to yourself because most of the times this world is not going to be...
I hope this helps...:)
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